Dating Violence

Am I Being Abused?

Does your partner:

• Embarrass you with put-downs?
• Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
• Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
• Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
• Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
• Make all of the decisions?
• Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
• Prevent you from working or attending school?
• Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
• Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
• Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
• Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
• Force you to try and drop charges?
• Threaten to commit suicide?
• Threaten to kill you?
  

If you answered "yes" to some of the questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Please contact the Violence Prevention & Women's Resource Center to learn more about your options: 909-869-3112

What is Safety Planning?

Safety planning with a trained advocate could assist a survivor prepare to handle abusive situations with a violent partner, leave their abuser, and begin life after leaving the relationship. The average survivor attempts to leave an abusive relationship seven times before successfully leaving their abuser. Creating a safety plan with an advocate is often the first step a survivor makes to reclaim their life.